Are You Selling Yourself Short? And Eventually Your Blog Too

by Febap Liew on July 23, 2010 · 19 comments






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I believe many of us reading this article right now either owns a blog of their own or an internet business. Some are eventually making a living out from it and some may be at the point of starting to do so. One thing for sure, blogging is a very ‘competitive’ activity and whether you like it or not, you gradually have the whole world to battle with. Most of the time, you will be strained, constantly, to prove your worth.

You may not have felt it – just yet, but your readers and subsequently your potential customers would eventually need to know if you are worthy enough or better yet the best person for the ‘job’. If you own a blog, they will be constantly on a look out of whether your contents are up to par and of quality. They want to know if you have the potential credibility to provide them with smart advices. If you have an internet business of your own, they would want to know if you are able to provide them with the best sales service and offer as compared to the rest of the similar businesses out there. Ultimately, they are finding out if you are ever worth their time.

Did I hit a switch? I believe many people reading this will have a similar question going in their heads right now. You’ll start to question your worth. You’ll start to question if what you are giving out is indeed what they are looking for. With everyone always on a constant pace of questioning your authority and expertise, it is only normal that you felt that way. Now when this happens, it is either you dust back up and aggressively opt in for a change or you would fall deeper, doubting yourself. You lose a bit of faith in your ability.

“Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt”
-William Shakespeare

At most cases, more often we are reluctant to give up on all the efforts that had been put into setting your blog or business up. Instead of giving out all you can as what you had initially started out to have, you sold yourself short in hopes that when no one is “looking”, you believe that you are still able to ‘proof’ your worth.

You tell your blog readers that you think this is indefinitely the best advice…but you end up adding such a point where it states that you are just human and that your point may not be productive for all. Your blog readers could accept that fact or leave without it.

You told your client that you will be able to produce positive results with your service…but you didn’t tell him that you will be able to increase the  rate of the conversion to a much more exponentially velocity within the shortest time possible.

There you are standing looking mightily impressive and acting as thou like nothing is wrong. However, all this little doubt that you harness inside, you are always on a constant thought of wondering if whatever you do will displease people and whether if ever they will continue to like you as how they had, if tomorrow will ever be a better day or whether your clients will be impressed about what you are going to provide for them.

“When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt”

Distinctively, this is not a very long post as compared to the rest I had written but I see great importance in sharing this out with you because I believe many at a point of every process or success, they will come a time where you will sell yourself short.

You are afraid that you will not get the preparation right, which you will not be able to grasp hold of this sort of opportunity, that you are worried of embarrassing yourself and blowing your chances off. Inevitably, unknowingly, all these hesitations will eventually pull you back even further.

When was the time you had ever self-doubted yourself? Causing unnecessary burdens and stressing yourself out because you didn’t actually believe you could do it.  When was the time when you were really convinced that you were not be able to make it but forced yourself to take unnecessary precaution steps in hopes that no one will question your authority? Did you think that was even possible?

Maybe, it is time to stand up and face ‘fear’ and ‘doubt’ right in the eye.



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Mark Bell July 23, 2010 at 12:43 am

Hey
Great post – and very good points made. I think when so many people start up a blog, they will immediately undervalue their worth, even if they are thumping out some fantastic content. I think it’s all too easy to do as well. Until you have a following, you cannot be sure about whether your content is useful or even credible.

How much of that is a mindset, I’m not sure. But one thing I think is important, is to blog confidently. If you don’t, I think it shows through in writing.
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Febap Liew July 23, 2010 at 4:15 pm

Heya Mark,
thank you for your comments.

you are right. It is indeed very hard to tell until you received some solid comments of indication that your post is indeed of value.

Come to believe in yourself, others will eventually follow ,aye.
cheers
have a nice day.
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Gary David | Build Your List Fast July 24, 2010 at 9:25 am

I completely agree with you. It really shows in your writing if you are lying or not confident enough with your content. Great points you’ve covered here Febap. Time to really face the fear. Fear and doubt will always be there, and will stay throughout our lives, so we have no choice but to face it and overcome those fears and doubts.

Nabeel | Create Your First Website July 23, 2010 at 7:16 am

Great motivation Febap.

I agree with you, we should face our doubts. Doubts do come in our minds, but that is natural. Everyone has doubts in life, but what makes the difference between success and failure, is how you face these doubts!

Kindest,
Nabeel

Febap Liew| Make Money Online Today July 23, 2010 at 4:19 pm

heya Nabeel,
you are right about that.

doubts are a eventually a natural state of being and many people would subsequently face it. =) success depends on how you gradually overcome it.

thank you for your comments
cheers
Febap Liew| Make Money Online Today´s last blog post ..Making Money Online Today Taking the First Step

Tinh July 23, 2010 at 7:40 am

I wish I could have read this post earlier.If so, I would have never sold my blog which I have invested a lot of effort and energy. However, there are a lot of reasons that came to such a hard decision and we ourself had to admit that “we are wrong”. Thanks so much for great article
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Febap Liew | Make Money Online Today July 23, 2010 at 4:25 pm

Hey Tinh,
We learnt from mistakes aye. I believe you have gradually improve your ability to ‘consider’ after that incident,aye. =)
admitting is indeed the first step to realizing and learning.
you are very welcome , Tinh. Nevertheless, keep up the effort on whatever you pursue at current.

cheers

Dean Saliba July 23, 2010 at 9:00 am

Oh I definitely do sell myself short, especially when it comes to advertising prices on my blog and offering prices when writing articles for people.

Not sure how to get out of this little rut as I’ve been doing this for a fair few years.
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Febap Liew | Make Money Online Today July 23, 2010 at 4:28 pm

Hey Dean,
lol.. everyone eventually does without realizing at times. =)
even thou it may won’t be easy but i believe you could take one step at a time at getting rid of such.
cheers
keep up the good work ,mate..
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Julian July 23, 2010 at 9:46 am

that’s right

it’s bad to be fear to lose
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Onibalusi Bamidele July 23, 2010 at 10:05 am

Really great post Febap,

The truth is, if you continue to doubt yourself then others also will doubt you.

Thanks so much for the great post,
-Onibalusi

Febap Liew | Make Money Online Today July 23, 2010 at 4:55 pm

Hey Julian,
thank you for your comments :)
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Simon Croft July 24, 2010 at 10:56 pm

Hi Febap,

Another great post.

Personally, I can be like yo-yo, sometimes I am up, others I am down. It is not that I doubt myself or my ability, it is when close one’s start questioning it, then a little self doubt starts creeping in. I don’t strive to be the best, just to do the best to my ability, but always try and give the best advice. If you don’t believe in what you write, then it shines through and becomes very noticeable. You must always be confident in your articles and the way you express them.

Many thanks

Simon

Febap Liew July 27, 2010 at 4:45 pm

Hey Simon,
thank you for your comments
i understand just how discouraging it may be when love ones starts questioning on how possible it could be.
nevertheless, you should always remember that you are responsible to how you are going to achieve. if you think that working to the best of your ability is great enough , then i’ll say go for it.

If you think that you should outperform yourself in anyway possible, then I’ll say keep it up. Whatever that is, as you mentioned, there is really no room for faking it. When one doesn’t believe in its ability to ‘provide’ it will show eventually.

Be confident in what you do. If you want to write, then write confidently. If you want to outsource and pay someone to write, then pay with confidence. =)
cheers
Febap Liew´s last blog post ..Making Money Online Is No One-Man-Show!

Kimi July 26, 2010 at 1:15 pm

You have pointed it out!

In my niches, doubts are always there, for example, i made a tutorial which works well with me, and got decent traffics from it, but zero comments, i would definitely wonder, does my post really work?

Once there is a commenter which says, it works for him/her, it becomes an encouraging and make my doubts smaller :D
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Febap Liew July 27, 2010 at 4:54 pm

@Kimi
indeed.
“when you give doubts your ‘power’, you eventually give power to doubts”

the end, it’s all about numbers ain’t it. In the end, we as bloggers or human eventually always need some sort of solid ‘reassurance’ to proof to us that we are doing is subsequently ‘right’.

Nevertheless, there should come to a point where you ought to believe that ‘numbers’ are not entirely what will dictate how you should ‘feel’ or ‘perform’.
Therefore, do not give doubt a chance. :) Hold strong on your beliefs.
cheers
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Anne M August 2, 2010 at 1:28 pm

It’s a thin line between evaluating your work and self-doubt. When it starts to paralyze you and stops you from working, then you’ve probably crossed that line.
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Febap Liew August 3, 2010 at 2:56 am

@Anne
Its quite similar as like you are at the edge of a cliff. you could climb back up or fall into a deeper ‘doubt’ as you mentioned, Anne.
No one wants to fall, seriously but only you yourself would determine if you could break that.
:)
cheers
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